There might come a time in your relationship when things will stop feeling right irrespective of how you both are in love. The uneasiness a...


There might come a time in your relationship when things will stop feeling right irrespective of how you both are in love. The uneasiness and discomfort you feel at this time could be as a result of the usual restlessness couples tend to feel sometimes or it could be a sign that you have not chosen the right person. The strategy to fall in love with the right person depends on who you decide to love, if you do not change your selection mechanism you will subconsciously choose the same heartache everytime, you will ignore the obvious red flags believing that the relationship will be different but nothing will change. You don’t need to change how you act, your clothes, your weight or your personality, you just need to shift your piece of the puzzle because when it shifts, you will see men or women you meet will start to change as well. Here are 4 signs you are in love with the wrong person;
1. Your self esteem is at an all-time low
If you always end up feeling worse about yourself after spending some time with your partner, you need to re-evaluate your relationship. Love is not supposed to hurt you, it is suppose to make you feel good and more confident. You will continue to get bad treatment when your partner succeeds in diminishing your self-esteem and this would be because you have started feeling like you can’t do better than this or that you do not deserve better than this.
2. You don’t feel safe with them
One of the very important sign that you are with the right person is that you always feel physically and emotionally safe when you are with them. If your partner is verbally or physically abusive, you should be smart enough to know that it can’t be love. Surround yourself with people who truly care and who you are safe with when you are in this kind of situation and you should know that the love you feel for this kind of person is often just distorted hope or fear.
3. you find yourself pining for another person
If you constantly think about a past love and then go on to wonder if this could actually be your heart warning you that you are in a wrong relationship then you need to rethink. Research has found that a rekindled romance are surprisingly successful as long as both partners are not otherwise attached at the time they reconnect.
4. You are not just yourself anymore
A person who truly loves you will always be willing to accept you for exactly who you are, never feel like you are being pressurized to fit an ideal person that your partner has carefully crafted for you. You have the right to live your life your own way, to do things you really want and to stay authentic and real as possible. If you feel like you are constantly downplaying certain traits of your personality or pretending to enjoy the activities and events that you don’t even care about, then you are doing your relationship more harm than good.
The above are signs you are in love with the wrong person.